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Alongside fear, powerlessness and helplessness are the two feelings I don't like to feel. I don't even like talking about them, but I like feeling them even less. That's why I regularly fall for projection here. Ooooh, there's so much stuff I have to do instead of just allowing myself to feel blocked, powerless, and helpless. I have to watch this show, cook, exercise, and even clean (another thing I don't particularly enjoy). And social media, of course. Everything is a distr

"Every time we judge something or are particularly moved by something, it has to do with ourselves." Projection happens when I am not in the genuine (unpleasant) feeling but instead override it (or suppress it, don't want to admit it, don't show it, find it embarrassing, don't allow it, or for some other reason why it's not expressed or shown). Sometimes I do this consciously (to suppress the unpleasant feeling), and sometimes unconsciously (just to make things a little more

The first sentence is the hardest for me. I'm thinking of a hundred things I want to put into the text, and I also want a fantastically good start to a new text. This stresses me out. So I procrastinate, and suddenly so many other things become important, like reading the news, eating something, taking a nap, oh my!   Well, now that I've started with these sentences, I might as well write about shadow work. Now I'm in it, so to speak (yeah, this is my 'trick myself' tactic, n

"Why aren't we all enlightened? Because there are still shadows where the light hasn't penetrated." "What if what we're looking for isn't in front of us, but inside us?" A video interview with Shaolin masters begins with these questions and statements. [Shaolin Meister: Der Westen ist krank und alle schweigen - YouTube] I can't say whether I'd recommend it, because I didn't watch any more of it. After those two sentences, I simply had the beginning for my next blog post and w

People sitting in a circle gaze excitedly at a few "performers" in the middle of the large circle, who, at first glance, stand around in an unrelated order, depicting a family system. That would be a picture of a "constellation group" in action, if I had to describe it in words. But behind it is something logical and coherent, even if it doesn't look like it. A participant sets up his family of origin (e.g., father, mother, sister, himself, 4 people). Not as it should be, but

Again and again I ask myself the same question about why. But I get no answer, or answers I don't want to hear or that don't satisfy me. I reject them, resistance. Perhaps asking why is the wrong way... And so I turn to the inner process, what exactly is going on. I want to tell you about it:   My ego (no, that's not the right answer, it has to be this way or that way for me to accept it) fights against reality (what IS). And that creates one form of pain. Anger, sadness, res

I understand that it can be frightening to look at the shadow sides of life, especially when it concerns oneself. It could be painful and uncomfortable. Yes, that's true—it does hurt and it can be unpleasant. But why do it anyway? Hmm, I can't answer that for you. I just know from my own experience that it transformed something within me. From darkness to light, the shadow lost its horror, the tough time passed, and the pain was not infinitely deep and infinitely long, but co

“Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right” – Henry Ford When blockages and unconscious, unwanted programs are resolved, the alignment towards the future can begin. What is possible then? What should be implemented, how? Where should the journey go? Are your goals the same as before? (Spoiler: probably not, they've changed). And what role does mental strength and appropriate mental programming play in this?   So much happens unconsciously, we don't even notice. And how

The relationship with myself determines the relationship with others. Hm, I'm repeating this because it applies to you as well. The relationship with ourselves determines our relationship with others. It took me a long time to fully grasp this concept in its entirety. What it means in depth. Today, it's clear. Everything I am, how I am with myself and my environment, is what I attract. This applies to the people in my life as well. So, who and what am I then? I mean the inner

Holistic View of You as a Person, My Approach A person is not just an individual alone, but a sum of experiences, embedded in various systems, surrounded by people from their environment, family, friends, colleagues, allies for a cause—whatever you want to call it. Most problems or issues that cannot be solved at the moment are not isolated issues. Of course, there are exceptions, such as specific fears like arachnophobia or fear of public speaking. In these cases, addressing