The Ego and Resistance

Again and again I ask myself the same question about why. But I get no answer, or answers I don't want to hear or that don't satisfy me. I reject them, resistance.

Perhaps asking why is the wrong way... And so I turn to the inner process, what exactly is going on. I want to tell you about it:

My ego (no, that's not the right answer, it has to be this way or that way for me to accept it) fights against reality (what IS). And that creates one form of pain. Anger, sadness, resistance, despair, whatever. Is this the primal struggle in humans? Ego versus reality or vice versa? The feelings about a situation trigger the ego to want something or not to want it, aka pursue it. But reality does not allow that, or not entirely, or only differently. It is not as we want it to be.

This conflict can only be resolved through surrender, forgiveness, humility. But who can do that when the ego wants something? I certainly can't. The ego must go, the feelings felt, and the situation completely accepted. Only then can it move forward.

How long the preceding struggle lasts depends on many factors: How pronounced is the ego? How long does it last? How capable am I of fighting? Am I ready for self-reflection or do I push away all responsibility? All of this is exhausting, of course it is, it's a fight!

The energy bound in this struggle cannot be used for anything else. And we wonder why we are stuck or can't concentrate at work, or can't make progress on a project...

I don't wonder anymore. The more combat situations (and there can be several situations occupying one simultaneously), the less constructive energy is available for other things.

But this energy can be released again.

To do this, the ego must be brought to the sidelines. I write 'must' in connection with the ego, as the ego will not be turned off without a fight. Rest assured.

This is the actual purification process. Not surrender, forgiveness, humility, no, pushing the ego aside. My goodness, that's hard. At least with my ego. I don't know what yours are like.

And sometimes lengthy... But once it's on the sidelines, it can quickly acclimate and find its way there. After all, the ego isn't stupid. It just continues doing its thing there or waits until it's called again.

In any case, it's no longer in the way and reality can be accepted without resistance.

"If I am not in alignment with the moment, if I do not accept the NOW as I am, then I am living a false life. The false self." – Eckhart Tolle

• 
  

I describe this as a completely internal process. It is a battle that takes place within me or within a person, without external involvement. I am deeply convinced that if we pacify these situations within ourselves and learn from them for the next opportunity that arises, we contribute to a more harmonious overall situation, more harmonious than it currently presents itself. It is my contribution and/or endeavor to describe how it works for me, to compare my insights gained from it with learned literature, and thereby perhaps motivate someone to look a little more closely within themselves. And if it's only one person who is inspired, then it was worth it to me.

Perhaps you are thinking about guidance for your transformation? Then please contact me.

• 
  

Definition of purification process: A purification process in most cases involves the removal of undesirable elements (impurities, errors, negative qualities) to achieve an improved, purer, or ideal state. Purification can take place not only in material processes but also act on a deep, personal, and transformative level. It is a process that often brings pain or discomfort but leads to inner peace and growth.